�罻���ã���θ��������������˴�|������,����,-sbobet利记
if you dont like something, change it; if you cant change it, change the way you think about it. ndash; mary engelbreit
���������ʲô���ı���������㲻�ܸı䣬�ı����̬�ȡ�mdash;mdash;���������������
some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.
���������������σ���щ��ͷ�����������ܲ������ǵĸ���̬�ȶ����լ�������ҳ�к�������ҳ�����öդ�������ϊ����
but that couldnt be farther from the truth.
����ʵ������ˡ�
if you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.
���������ч�ը���щ���������ˣ���ϊ��������ӵ���ߣ���õi취���dz�ȡ�������щ��ʩ��
1. limit the time you spend with them
���ƺ������ദ��ʱ��
first, lets get this out of the way. you can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.
��������ҫ������һ�㡣����ܱȿ�ͨ���ﻹҫ�����ֹۣ�����ʹ��������ļ��黹���п��ܱ�ijλ���ѵij�������������ĥ��
in fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. theres no reason to get hurt because of someone elses bad mood.
��ʵ�ϣ�������������ľ������������ܵ�ѹ�������������༲�����ֺ�����һ���ѿ���֤ʵ�ˡ�����û��������ϊ���˵ļ��������ܵ��˺���
though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.
��ȼ������һ��ҫ��������������������ܻ��е��ѱ졣�������ٺ����������ദ���ֹ���լ��ľ���ҳ�ܵ�ӱ�졣
2. speak up for yourself
ϊ�լ�����
dont just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. its wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting whats being said.
��ҫֻ��ĭĭ�������㲻ͣ��������щ���ۣ����䵱���ǻ����й�ʱ�������������ǿ�������������˵�����������̫��ĭ�����˵�ӡ��������ѿ�������������˵�ļ���
�罻���ã�8�����켼�������˼��˰�gt;gt;gt;
3. dont pretend that their behavior is ok.
��ҫ��װ���ǵı���û����
this is an easy trap to fall into. point out to the person that their constant negativity isnt a good thing. we dont want to do this because its far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and wed rather just stay out of it.
����һ��������������塣ҫ����щ��ָ�����dz����ĸ���������һ�����¡����dz�������������ϊ�ñ��˳��������ǵ�ʹ��֮��ҫ���ö࣬���ǹ�ը���������⡣
but if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.
�������ϊ�����ǻã��ͳ�ҫ��������������ӡ����������ϊ�լ��ĸ������������ġ�
4. dont make their problems your problems
��ҫ�����ǵ��������������
though i consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. when we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.
��ȼ����ϊͬ������һ������������ܺ�σ�ա�����������ij�����ѻ����˵ı�թ���������ǻ�����һ��е����˷��ա�
this is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. these types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.
����һ����ϰ�ߣ����������������������������������˺ܿ���ϊ�˲�ȡͬ�����װ��һ�����¡�
why else would they be sharing this with you?
��������ϊʲôҫ���������щ����������أ�
5. change the subject
�ı仰��
when you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.
���㻳��һ���ի�������ʼ���۸��滰�⣬�ı�������⣬ӯ������������ȼ������������ʱ��ҳ���ܺ��զէ���̸�۵����ݡ�
acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.
�������ǵ����ۣ�����ҫ�ȵ����ǿ�ʼ���㱧թ���ջ���֣��ͽ�ת�ƻ��⡣
6. talk about solutions, not problems
̸�۽���취�����������Ȿ��
sometimes, changing the subject isnt an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesnt mean you cant still be positive.
��ʱ���������ҫ�ը���щ���������ˣ��ı仰���в�ͨ�����ⲣ����ζ�����������һщ��
i know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, i have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. the key is to measure your responses as solution-based.
�����ף������˿�ʼ���ұ�թʱ����һʱ��֪����˵щʲô����ʵ�ؼ���������ծ�����ľ���취������ӧ��
you can do this by asking questions like, well, how could this be resolved? or, how do you think they feel about it?
�������һщ���⣬�����ǹ���ô����أ����������������ô�룿
use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.
������ķ��������ҳ�һ��������������ѽ���취�ĺ��ʻ�ӧ��
7. leave them behind
�������
sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.
���ź�����ʱ����������û�취������щ���ѣ����䵱���ѿ��߾�ȫ����ҫ����һ�ֻ����ĺ�ϵ��
if this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.
���������ļ��ˣ���ȼ���ǻ��й�ϵ������ҳ����ȼӧ���������ƕ�����ҹ���������ӱ�졣
�罻���ã����˱ر���12���罻����gt;gt;gt;
�罻���ã�9�������ӵľ���ϰ��������gt;gt;gt;